
Dear Facebook
We’ve been bedfellows for a while now. I know it hasn’t always been an easy relationship, but we’ve got through the rough patches together one way or another and I’ve managed to forgive you, because my life is enriched by knowing what YouTube videos my friends are watching, and how their virtual farms are doing. And as you know, my Mafia Wars character has quite the bodacious arsenal of vehicles and weapons. So yes, there’s some co-dependency there.
You rummaged through my GMail contacts once without permission. Do you remember that? I was logged in in another tab, and when I was distracted you snuck in uninvited. It didn’t take too long for the secret to slip though, did it? You couldn’t resist asking me if I wanted to be friends with the people you saw there.
Speaking of which, could you stop asking me if I want to be friends with my parents? They deleted their account more than a year ago. They didn’t love you Facebook. You dated briefly and it just didn’t work out, so don’t be a stalker about it.
Oh… and I know you’re gossiping about me behind my back too. My cat has an account with you and you keep suggesting my friends to him. I tried to shut you up using your privacy settings, but it seems that “gossip level” isn’t amongst them. I assume if I secretively hide that information from everyone then you’d stop, but I’d like some kind of mid-ground where people can see it on my profile but you’re not shouting it from the rooftops.
You know I’ve got over all these boundary issues and moved on. I don’t want to be petty about it.
It’s just that things are starting to change, and I’m not sure you’re the same Facebook I married anymore. When we first met you let me exchange a little information with my friends, and that was kind of sweet. But now I keep bumping into you everywhere. You’re on web pages and in emails, and every business, community group, cause and promotion in town is asking me to be its friend.
I’m just not interested in getting daily updates from my mechanic or being part of the great community of people who wear the same sports shoes as me, and I know you’ll say “then just ignore them”, but it’s like some kind of mad cacophony out there. I just want to scream “I use you, but I don’t LIKE you” at everyone.
I shouldn’t be blaming you I guess. Such is the capitalist world we live in.
But I heard yesterday that Microsoft’s Outlook is now your new BFF (Best Facebook Friend), and that’s just creeptastic.
Mashable says:
“Not only does it pull Facebook profile photos so that you can associate a name to a face, but it pulls the news feeds of your contacts into your inbox. When you’re looking at someone’s email, you’ll also get a glance at their status updates, picture uploads and wall posts, among other activities.
“When you combine that with LinkedIn, MySpace, Windows Live Messenger, and Outlook data, you get a very detailed history of your interaction with your contacts, as well as an at-a-glance look at their activities and interests. Knowing that a potential client just returned from a trip to Hawaii can be all that you need to have the upper hand against your competition.
“Social data can be incredibly useful in the business world, especially when you need to understand what your client or colleague is thinking or doing right now. While we’d still love to see Twitter integration in Outlook, Facebook is far larger and, in most cases, has far more useful information.”
Oh Facebook, we’re just going to have to see how this one pans out, but I feel like our relationship is on rocky ground, I really do. It’s just getting so hard to tell you anything anymore without the whole neighborhood knowing about it.
Anyway, until then, love you. See you at home tonight. If you’re passing a supermarket, don’t forget we’re out of soy milk.
xx
Marc
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